So, you’ve just got engaged.
Whether you are a man or a woman you have an important decision to make (amongst the myriad of other decisions) about mens wedding rings. It’s this. Will the man in your relationship wear one?
Maybe that’s you, maybe not. But you both need to think about it.
You see it’s only since the second world war that modern men have started to publicly display their marital status by the wearing of a man wedding ring.
Prior to that it was rare for a man to wear a ring when he married. Men were able to hide their marital status behind the tradition that required a woman to wear a wedding ring, but not a man.
However during the war many US soldiers chose to wear mens wedding rings as a public symbol of their marital status whilst away at war and that has started a tradition for the modern man. Now it’s very common for a man to wear a mens wedding ring, perhaps the norm.
So, what decisions need to be made? Well the first is this. Will he wear one? That’s probably the hardest decision in the process.
For a woman there’s no decision. She’s engaged, she wants the ring. For her she needs an engagement ring as well as a wedding ring, and an expensive engagement ring at that. But for a man it’s not so straight forward.
So a very important part of the process is for both of you to talk about it. Do you both have strong feelings about the man wearing a man wedding ring, either one way or the other? Does the woman feel that if she is to publicly display her marital status then it’s only fair that he do the same? Does he have any reservations about wearing a ring and if so what are they? You both need to talk over your feelings about the wearing of a man wedding ring. Establish the groundwork.
Once and if you have made a decision that he will wear a ring then that’s just the start. It’s perfectly possible to buy a his and hers matching wedding ring set. These are rings designed as matching sets for you both so that both your wedding rings go well together. So are you going to look for matching rings, or just buy him a ring and focus on hers separately?
Next you have to decide what type of ring. There’s a whole world of designs for mens wedding rings out there. An enormous range of styles and materials. A man makes a statement about himself in selecting the ring he will wear for his wife, and she is a part of that statement if she is actively involved in the decision.
Think about his personality. Is he outgoing or shy? Is he outrageous or conservative? Is he flamboyant? Understated? When he buys clothes what does he select? Does he buy colourful flamboyant ties or ties which fit in with the style of the suit? Would he wear clothes which make him stand out from the crowd or does he prefer to meld in?
His men’s wedding ring needs to fit his personality. All these characteristics, as well as many others, bear on your choice of ring. A man with a strong flamboyant personality would be much more likely to prefer a ring which stands out. Which sets him apart from the crowd, which says “look at me”. On the other hand a man with a more conservative type of personality would probably prefer to say “I’m married but I’m not going to shout it from the rooftop” with his ring.